I had an interesting week, last week. I wanted to post over the weekend but didn’t seem to have the time. There were 2 big things that happened that I need to share.
This first is work related. The biggest work issue for me is the commute. I spend about 1 hour and 45 minutes taking 2 subway trains and a corporate shuttle van to get to work in the morning. Then it takes at least that long (usually longer) to get home again. If I’m running late and miss the shuttle van I have to stand around for 1/2 hour waiting for the next one. It hasn’t always been this way. When I started working here it only took 30-40 minutes each way, but my company moved me from one office to another 2 years ago and that more than doubled my commute time. I’ve asked many times to be moved back to the other office and have been told not to get my hopes up.
On top of that I’ve been bored and having trouble focusing at work since I got back from vacation in April. I’ve been doing pretty much the bare minimum most of the time and it has not gone unnoticed. I got a “talking to” last week. I got a meeting invite from my boss’s boss and knew the jig was up. But it actually turned out to be a really great meeting. She shared some good advice and made me feel a little excited again about the changes our company is going through. She’s fairly new to the company and we hadn’t spoken like that before so while it was clear to me the meeting was scheduled because I wasn’t putting forth my best efforts, it was also nice to speak with her about how things have not been so great around here lately and clear the air, so to speak. The best thing to come out of the conversation however, is that I will be able to work from the other office 3 days a week and will only have the extra long commute 2 days a week. I’m super excited about this change, for years now I’ve felt like I couldn’t do anything and didn’t have time for anything because I wasted 4 hours of my day commuting. I’m looking forward to having 6 extra hours a week. Maybe I can actually manage to take a yoga class during the week now. We’ll see how it all works out…
The other big thing that happened was we had a consult with a new RE. This is a Dr. with a MUCH smaller practice than what we’re used to at Cornell. But I just don’t feel like we’re getting the diagnostic attention we need there. I don’t have anything bad to say about them and I may still end up cycling there again but they keep throwing the same protocol at me and now they just want to add the PGD. Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results is the definition of insanity, right? So before we moved forward again, especially with something as complicated as a PGD cycle, I wanted a second opinion.
This RE has a small office in mid-town Manhattan and he took almost an hour to speak with my husband and I about our case so far. He’s the first medical person to suggest that there might be some issues with me and the “oven” in addition to our embryos or “buns”. He has suggested some tests to evaluate my immune system. He followed-up our appointment with an email noting the testing we discussed, which is nice because many times I’ve wanted to be able to email my current RE but that’s not how that office works. Here’s what he said, “This will include a series of blood tests. It will be for APA (antiphospholipid antibodies), ATA (antithyroid antibodies), NKa (Natural killer cell activation) and RIP (Reproductive immunophenotype). I also want to know about your thrombophilia status and chromosome status.”
So ladies I need some info, I don’t really know what all these things are or what they mean. This is the first time someone has been interested in taking a more in-depth look at me since we got the diagnosis of male infertility and moved on to IVF. Have you had these tests? Do you want these tests? What will these tests tell us? I need to do some research of course but your feedback is always appreciated. At this point I’m just glad to have someone who is looking into it further and suggesting these tests instead of just saying there’s nothing wrong with me.
Also as a side note – One thing I had asked but never got an answer to after my last miscarriage was the gender of the baby. Well as part of this whole exercise, I got a copy of my medical records from Cornell. And while it was not fun to read the pathology report, it is nice to know that it was a girl. I felt like it was a girl when I was pregnant and now I finally know that I was right.